This post was recommended by couple counsellors.
Marriage and love often follow seven periods. If we knew about these periods 80% of all marriages might not be divorced.
We choose our partner. However if we want to feel strong love, we need to get to know each other, create a friendship first and only after that we can love deeply. Many people think that the first love, the romantic falling in love, is the real one. But when romance disappears, the pink glasses fall, we face the first problems and challenges in our relationships. And some people think that love is gone. However, trust and patience, those are the most important love counterparts. If you think that love in your relationships “is over”, you can be sure that true love hasn't even begun. Read about these seven relationship periods, they might show you how true love and strong relationships are only built over time.
- THE ROMANTIC PERIOD 💅+🥂+😍 +💝
The romantic period is approximately eighteen months long. Both women and men feel in love, our bodies are filled with hormones that help us see the world in more bright colors. During this period everything about our partner seems wonderful and amazing. People might feel like under the influence of some light drugs. It is not recommended to make serious decisions during this period, as this light dizzy feeling will fade away and reality will kick in.
- THE SATURATED PERIOD 😘+🛀+🧐
During this period we start to see our partner and our relationship clearly. Emotions calm down, we gradually get used to each other. As a result our behaviour changes and we start to feel free.
- THE REPULSE PERIOD ☢️ + 🤢
Those who have long lasting relationships can’t be protected from this period. It is typical to have a lot of disputes and we look for deficiencies in our partner. And it often feels like divorce is the best solution. If we divorce we can make new romantic relationships with another partner. And then all of these periods start all over again. So in the new relationships we might come to this third period and feel ready for a new partner.
- THE PATIENCE PERIOD 👁
In this relationship period both partners are growing wiser. The disputes are not so dramatic any more because both partners know that the dispute will end but the relationship will continue. If both partners are doing everything they can to grow their patience, with time they learn how to be wiser. That is the rule.
- THE RESPONSIBILITY AND RESPECT PERIOD ❣️
This is the first period of real love, because there has been no real love until this time. Both partners are aware our their obligations. They start to think not what the other person can do for me, but what can I do for the person I love.
- THE FRIENDSHIP PERIOD 💞
In this period both partners become really close. They trust each other like best friends. This friendship period opens the doors to true love.
- THE TRUE LOVE PERIOD 💜
It is a really long road through difficult life periods and tricky situations to reach true love. True love is not the one that just falls at your feet, contrary to what many of us believe. Reaching true and mature love demands that we are mature personalities, who can give up our ego and prejudice.
What do you think about that?
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